Me and Alona during our 3rd year in high school 🙂
Everyone of us may have experienced going into fight with a friend. But there was a fight I would never forget. It was a fight between me and my best friend, Alona.
It was just a normal day of our 3rd year in high school when I noticed something is wrong. Alona started ignoring me and giving me the “silent treatment.” I was really clueless of what happened because earlier that day, we were still talking casually with each other. An idea came to me that she might just be in her normal mood swing, but the day just ended and everything is still the same.
Days passed, but nothing changed. I tried approaching her and acting normally with her but it was no use, she still keeps on ignoring me. That time, I was really confused because I really do not know what have I done to make her that mad and made her ignore me for that long.
Later, I heard from a classmate that it was because of that day where we did not went to the flag ceremony with her. I was really shock because that was only the reason she ignored me and that was just nonsense.
After knowing her reason, I tried approaching her but I still got nothing. Some said, I should give her time to cool down. So I started staying away.
At first, I really find it difficult especially because we are classmates and are in the same room. Our eyes meet and we crossed path which make things harder for me because before, we were like sisters, always together, but know we are just like strangers. But later on, I got used to it and acted as if nothing happens.
I treated things normally but it all changed when I received a paper bag with a letter, and it was from Alona. At first, I thought it could be something that can mend our broken friendship, but the face of my classmate, who gave it to me, tells me I was wrong. It was full of the things I gave her ever since we are first year.
As I read the letter, I was really in the verge of crying. I learned that it was not just about that day, but also from the way I acted even before that. My insensitivity may have send her wrong messages making her think that she was not important to me. That I was not treating our friendship well, like she does.
My emotion that time is in chaos. I was happy, because she kept everything I gave her. Also hurt because she wanted to erase me in her life because she returned everything to me. And lastly, angry as she just wanted to end our friendship, which I cherished the most, just because of a silly misunderstanding.
After that incident, things got worse. I have started to close my mind from any thought of reconciling with her. I also treated her the way she treated me before so I can get even with her. Before, the misunderstanding was not really obvious, after that incident, everyone in our class noticed it.
Many tried to reconcile us but nothing worked. Both of us got hurt from the past, that it seems impossible for us to be friends again. Some said one of us should say stay down and say sorry, but our pride overcome us.
Months passed and nothing changed, but that was until it was our Christmas Party. Because many was aware of our fight, I guess they told our adviser because during her speech, she stated something about reconciliation and other things, that is really what the message of Christmas and New Year is.
Maybe that message really got into us and we swallowed our pride and said sorry to each other. We cried and said all of our feelings to each other. After that, I felt free and happy that I got my best friend back. I also enjoyed our Christmas party, not just because it was fun, but because it was with the friends I cherished the most.
Now, me and Alona are still best of friends. Though we lived far from each other, we try our best to have contact and talk to each other as if we are still living in one municipality.
Things happened for a reason. And that incident made us understand each other more and made our friendship stronger. We also see who really cares for us. That’s why, even though that problem was big, I was happy it happened. 🙂
-Judy 🙂